Getting older with Tourette Syndrome can be challenging in many aspects, including the impact that tics can have on social interactions. Dating and meeting other people can be extremely stressful in general, but to those with tic disorders, can be particularly hard.
When it comes time for dating, keep these few helpful tips in mind:
- Manage your stress. As we know, stress worsens your tics and can worsen other comorbid conditions related to Tourette Syndrome. So, if you find dating stressful, explore ways to manage your stress such as:
- Follow up with a counselor/psychologist
- Utilize deep breathing strategies
- Meditate
- Listen to Calming Music
- Exercise
- Socialize-get out there. It is important to do fun things that you enjoy. You are always at your best when you are doing things you enjoy.
- Volunteer
- Join social groups
- Religious organizations, etc.
- If tics are a concern, explore methods such as the Comprehensive Behavioral Intervention for Tics (CBIT) program that addresses strategies to manage tics and decrease tic interference throughout your day. For more information, see the Tourette Association CBIT page.
- Don’t be afraid to talk about it. Instead of trying to suppress your tics (which can sometimes worsen your tics), get it out in the open and tell the person. Explore fun ways to share your story; use your creativity and personality to make it something that you are comfortable with.
Tourette Association of America has a wonderful article on how Adults Have TS Too, and addresses some of the issues that are common in adults, such as dating.
Also, check out this article by Mitzi Waltz on the Tourette Association Website regarding Dating and Tourette Syndrome for more information.
Having Tourette Syndrome makes you unique and can add to your already wonderful person, don’t be afraid to show it.
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